Since US President Donald Trump began his second term in January 2025, a sharp escalation in immigration detention and deportation operations has forced hundreds of thousands of mixed-status American families—couples where one partner is a US citizen and the other lives in the country without authorized immigration status—to make an agonizing choice: stay separated forever, or leave the only home many of them have ever known to rebuild their lives together in Mexico. This is the untold story of two families who chose love over distance, chronicling their pain, sacrifice, and fragile hope for the future.
For Janie Pérez, a 29-year-old US-born woman from Missouri, that fateful choice began on an ordinary October morning. Her husband Alejandro, an undocumented Mexican migrant who had lived in the US for 16 years, left for his cook job at a local café, just like any other workday. Minutes after he walked out the door, Janie’s phone rang. On the line, Alejandro whispered the words that would upend their entire lives: “I think ICE is here.”
As Janie held the phone, she could hear US Immigration and Customs Enforcement agents in the background moving to arrest her husband. She immediately began to pray, but in that moment, she knew her life would never be the same. What she could not anticipate, though, was that just months later, she would be packing up her entire life, leaving her home country to follow her deported husband to central Mexico, alongside their two young daughters, Luna and Lexie.
Alejandro’s journey to the US began long before he met Janie. Born in Michoacán, Mexico, he first crossed into the US without documentation at age 7 with his father. When he returned to Mexico as a pre-teen, he faced a growing threat that haunts young men across his home region: forced recruitment by violent criminal organizations. To escape that danger, he made the decision to cross back into the US unlawfully as a young adult, building a quiet, law-abiding life working in restaurants for 16 years.
The pair met in 2019 while working at the same Missouri café—Alejandro as a cook, Janie as a waitress. Bonded by their shared Christian faith, they fell in love and married, and immediately sought legal help to secure Alejandro permanent resident status (a green card) through their marriage. But their efforts failed: current US immigration law bars most people who entered the country unlawfully from gaining legal status through spousal sponsorship, trapping thousands of mixed-status couples in legal limbo.
Though they knew Alejandro could be detained at any time, they tried to live as normal a life as possible, raising their two young daughters. That normalcy shattered the morning ICE agents arrested Alejandro. Over the next five months, as Alejandro awaited deportation in a detention center, Janie could only meet him through a thick pane of glass, pressing their hands together from opposite sides and crying together. She watched him in court hearings, shackled at the hands, feet and waist, a sight she describes as heart-wrenching.
When Alejandro was formally deported to Mexico in March 2025, Janie did not hesitate. Leaving behind all her friends, family and the life she had always known, she packed her belongings and brought their two daughters across the border to join him, reuniting at Querétaro’s international airport. “I had tears of happiness when I saw him again,” Janie recalled. For Alejandro, the emotion of hugging his 3-year-old daughter after five months apart was overwhelming: “It can’t be explained in words.”
Today, the family is adjusting to their new life. Janie, a native English speaker who does not speak Spanish, admits building a life from scratch in an unfamiliar country has been far from easy. Still, she has no regrets about her choice. “There is nothing more important than being together,” she says. She also pushes back against the narrative that justifies deporting undocumented migrants like her husband. Though Alejandro entered the US without authorization, he has never been convicted of a crime. He came to escape violence and build a better life, a decision Janie calls morally justified. “All these years he has devoted himself to working and he has no criminal record. That makes me think that many people want this to be a country only for white people. I am white and that does not make me a better person.”
Janie and Alejandro’s story is far from unique. Official US estimates place the number of US citizens married to undocumented partners at roughly 1.1 million. As deportation operations have ramped up, hundreds of these families are making the same choice to relocate to Mexico. For Raegan Klein, a US citizen, and her husband Alfredo Linares, an undocumented Mexican who had lived in the US for 22 years, the choice came earlier: they left voluntarily before they could be separated by detention and deportation.
Alfredo, who entered the US unlawfully at 17, built a successful career as a fine dining chef, and the couple had just launched their own Japanese-style street food barbecue business in Los Angeles when Trump took office and ramped up enforcement. Raegan, terrified that ICE would detain Alfredo and tear their family apart, convinced him to move voluntarily to Puerto Vallarta, a popular tourist hub on Mexico’s Pacific coast.
Leaving was devastating for Alfredo, who had built his entire adult life in the US. In a tearful social media post the day he left, he wrote: “Today is my last day here in the United States. After 20 years, it’s time to leave.” Now, one year after their move, the challenges persist. Though Alfredo is Mexican by birth, he left as a teenager and feels like a stranger in the country he now calls home. The pair have struggled to build a steady income: Alfredo cooks private dinners for small groups, but the work is inconsistent, and Raegan, who does not speak Spanish, has been unable to find steady remote work. There have been many days when they have questioned their decision.
Still, Raegan stands by the choice to stay together. Despite the financial struggles, they hold onto a new dream: opening their own restaurant in Puerto Vallarta, catering to the area’s large community of foreign tourists. Right now, they lack the startup capital to make that dream a reality, but they continue to work toward it. For these couples, the American dream that once drew their partners north of the border is now in the rearview mirror; what remains is the quiet hope of building a new “Mexican dream” together, united as a family.
The current US administration says its immigration enforcement priorities focus on deporting undocumented migrants with criminal records. Department of Homeland Security data, however, contradicts that framing: less than 38% of people deported under the new policy have ever been charged or convicted of a crime. For the growing number of mixed-status families, that means the threat of displacement and separation remains a daily reality, forcing impossible choices that prioritize immigration policy over family unity.