‘Don’t wait until you want revenge’ – why prenups are on the rise

For decades, prenuptial agreements were widely associated only with billionaires, A-list celebrities, and old-money families — seen as a legal tool for the ultra-wealthy to protect massive fortunes ahead of marriage. But that stereotype is rapidly fading, as a growing share of ordinary couples of all income levels are choosing to sign these contracts before walking down the aisle, driven by shifting cultural attitudes, greater accessibility, and pragmatic life experience.\n\nOne of the earliest examples of this modern trend is the young couple Celine Tsoi and Charles Mock, who first crossed paths two years ago in Goleta, California, when Tsoi was 23 and Mock was 27. Just eight months after their first meeting, the pair got engaged — and almost immediately, their friends began asking one question: had they planned to sign a prenup?\n\nRather than brushing the idea off as unromantic, the couple embraced it. Though their financial gaps are small — Mock, a nurse, earns a higher annual income than Tsoi, a PhD student, while Tsoi has slightly more personal savings — they saw the process as an opportunity to address potential conflict points head-on. Tsoi says she was particularly moved by Mock’s willingness to stipulate that she would keep the shared home if the couple ever split. For her, the act of negotiating the agreement revealed more about her fiancé’s character than any casual date could. “A lot of things could happen in a marriage,” she explains. “You want to discuss them when you still love each other rather than when things go bad and you want to take revenge.”\n\nHigh-profile celebrity engagements, including the 2026 wedding of Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce and 2025 nuptials of Jeff Bezos and Lauren Sanchez, have kept public attention focused on prenups in recent months, but data shows the trend extends far beyond Hollywood and Silicon Valley. While official national tracking does not exist for the U.S., where divorce courts have a long history of upholding prenuptial agreements, surveys indicate that nearly half of all married millennials and more than one in three married Gen Z adults currently have a prenup. Across all age groups, roughly one in five married American couples hold these contracts.\n\nAcross the Atlantic, the trend is also gaining traction following legal reforms that give greater recognition to prenups in England. Research shows that around one in 10 all British couples now have a prenup, with younger couples leading the charge: roughly one in three married adults under 35 in the UK have signed an agreement.\n\nLondon-based family lawyer Mark Gilmartin, of JMW Solicitors, says he has seen a sharp spike in demand for prenuptial services over the past 18 months. The old stereotype of a billionaire seeking to protect his fortune from a much younger partner has been replaced, he says, by requests from everyday professionals: startup founders, entrepreneurs, social media influencers, and working couples from all income brackets. Gilmartin explains that many modern clients are not protecting existing massive fortunes, but rather the future gains they expect to build over their careers — “the fruits of what’s going to be, rather than what is.” A large share of ordinary clients also seek prenups to ring-fence inherited wealth they expect to receive from their families.\n\nFor Becca Gibson, who is set to marry Dave Howells in West Sussex, the decision to sign a prenup grew out of personal experience and a desire for pragmatic fairness. Gibson, 33, went through a messy first divorce that ended poorly, and the couple have unequal incomes and blended families: Gibson has three children from her first marriage, while Howells has one, and Howells, who works in finance, earns more than three times Gibson’s income from her eyelash extension business. Though a court could potentially award her a larger settlement than the prenup outlines, Gibson says the agreement is a fair arrangement that protects assets both sides bring to the marriage. She expects to inherit substantial property from her parents, and the agreement stipulates that each partner will keep what they entered the relationship with if the marriage ends. “It’s nice knowing that if anything were to happen, I would just go back to how life was before,” she says.\n\nHowells, 45, acknowledges that talking about prenups feels unromantic, but says the national divorce rate makes pragmatism a necessity. “I built a home for myself. I’ve built a future for myself, including pensions,” he explains. “Park the emotional side of me loving both her and the kids… Why on earth would I have to pay something towards her life in the event of us splitting up?”\n\nLawyers point to a handful of key drivers that have pushed prenups from the fringes to the mainstream. For many couples, a primary motivation is a desire to avoid repeating the pain of past separation or the messy divorces they watched their own parents go through. Second, the rise of low-cost, semi-automated online platforms has made prenups far more accessible and affordable than the traditional route of hiring expensive family lawyers. Howells initially planned to use a local law firm, which quoted him roughly £5,000 for the service, before switching to a digital semi-automated platform called Wenup that charged a fixed fee of just £1,600.\n\nJulia Rodgers, co-founder of U.S.-based online prenup platform HelloPrenup, notes that shifting marriage timelines also play a role. Today, couples are marrying later in life, meaning most have already accumulated assets — from homes and businesses to student loan debt — by the time they walk down the aisle. “So you have a lot to protect and to lose by the age of 34,” she says. The ongoing “Great Wealth Transfer”, which is passing trillions in assets from older generations to millennials and Gen Z, has also pushed demand: many parents of engaged couples insist on prenups to protect family inheritances.\n\nRodgers adds that the reputation of prenups as an instrument that disadvantages women has also become outdated. Today’s agreements often empower women by clarifying their legal rights and financial expectations from the start of the marriage, creating space for open conversation about core topics before conflict arises. “We want to make sure we have the honest, open, transparent conversations about life goals, about finances, about roles and responsibilities in the home, so that we can have a long, happy marriage and not end up in that position that we saw our parents in,” she says.\n\nFor Tsoi, the decision to sign a prenup has already paid off, even before marriage. The online agreement cost her just a few hundred dollars, and she calls it a worthwhile investment that is far more important than the wedding itself. The hardest conversations about finances are already done, she says: “We haven’t had a single argument about finances.”